This is one of those 'random' blogs about something that caught my attention on social media - it is SO TRUE...
Some may see the short excerpt that I share at the end of this blog as simply the spreading of one person's negative views & opinions. However, I see it as a "realistic view" of a growing problem in our society - a problem that often leads to mental & physical bullying. I have chosen to put a positive spin on the excerpt by using it to (a) remind us to check our own behavior and (b) to help those unfairly judged, criticized or wrongly labeled learn & grow from the experience. You will understand what I mean as you read on.
I'm sure most of us have felt unfairly judged or wrongly labeled at some time in our life. Some of you may have even been unfairly judged or wrongly labeled for your entire life. However, the real question is, did you allow it to weaken you or did you force it to strengthen you?
As mentioned earlier, I believe there's an underlying message of encouragement in the post in that it identifies the real problem as society values and dismisses the validity of the offensive words used to unfairly judge, criticize or label a person. A frequently presented argument is that unfair judgement and wrongly labeling often stems from the perpetrator's own personal baggage and insecurities; a smaller percentage coming from people who genuinely care and want the best for you but just show it in the wrong way. However, let's remember this blog is centered around the adjectives unfairly & wrongly. With that said, we still sometimes need to be reminded that the problem is not with us but with the perpetrator.
The short post (rant) addresses criticism, judgement & labeling. To continue please click "Read More..." at the bottom of the page >>
DON'T WORRY ABOUT WHAT THEY SAY...
JUST "BE YOU"
" If you're skinny, you're starving yourself. If you're fat, you need to lose weight. If you leave your hair gray,
you're getting old. If you color your hair, you're trying to act young. If you're dressed up, you're conceited. If you're dressed down,
you've let yourself go. If you speak your mind, you're rude. If you don't say anything, you have no backbone. If you cry, you are weak.
If you’re sociable, you run the streets too much. If you stay to yourself, you’re an introvert (standoffish, stuck up, etc.) .
If you have a nice life, you're a snob. And if you’re educated and successful, you’re boujee.
YOU can't do anything without being criticized.
We live in a society where people can't seem to survive if they're not judging the next person...."
~ Post originator unknown
Hopefully the "Be You" rant will help those weakened by misconceptions, criticism, unfair judgement and wrongful labeling to realize that it really isn't personal at all, sadly it's simply HUMAN NATURE (the society we live in). The good news is, through social media more and more people are starting to speak out against it. The bad news, through social media more and more people are using the web to perpetuate it.
Like it or not, we are always going to be criticized, judged and labeled; we just have to find a way to deal with it. The real problem is when words are used with malicious intent rather than an echo of their true feelings.
"Be you" be proud, be resilient and accept the fact that there will always be people trying to pull you down rather than building you up. Detach yourself from negative energy if at all possible.